When you lose a lot of weight, you not only find your clavicles but you also find your self-esteem and self-confidence. It’s amazing….isn’t it? There it is….it must have been buried amongst the “extra” pounds! Oh, yes, it may be shattered and broken but it can be fixed!
Now, what to do with this new find? It’s not like riding a bike, where you remember how to use it. You have to re-analyze yourself and understand why you had it in the first place and how and when you lost it. It comes with a new mind set and a new self image. It is very fragile and you will have to take precautions in building it up and protecting it from being torn down again.
What is self esteem? It is the way we look at ourselves….our judgment of how we perceive our self as a whole. It’s not necessarily the facts that help us build our self esteem, rather, it’s what we believe to be true that creates our self esteem.
Treat others the way you would like to be treated. Sound familiar? It’s the Golden Rule. In the Bible, it reads, Do to others as you would have them do to you. Luke 6:31. I don’t think you would walk around all day calling people in the office fat, lazy and worthless? So, then why do we allow ourselves to be our own enemy? We do this from the moment we wake up…I’m late, I’m wasting time, I’m not worth that breakfast…and on and on all day long. We are slowly kicking our own selves down. How then can we expect to treat others with respect, if we cannot even do this for our self?
It doesn’t take losing weight for this to be implemented. You can start this right now. If I would have started working on my self image before losing the weight, I probably would have lost it much faster or at least had more fun doing it!
Here are some great tips in helping re-build that self esteem:
- Stop being so critical of yourself. We are human and make mistakes. We will never be perfect!
- Get rid of your fears and anxieties that you face about yourself. Life is too short to worry.
- Learn to forgive yourself. Mess up…move on….try and do better next time. Forgive!
- Change your negative into positive, I can…I will…I am….replace all negative thinking with positives.
- Jealousy hurts. It’s not yours…get your own. Who knows…maybe it wasn’t meant for them either.
I will end this with a quote:
“The most important opinion you have is the one you have of yourself, and the most significant things you say all day are those things you say to yourself.”
~ Unknown Author